Naomi Tulay-Solanke: Lack of Pleasure Becomes the Major Root cause of Relationships Breakout
Marshall, Margibi County: As the population of Liberia increases, there are many challenges that women and girls are confronted with and as such, there is a need to find means to extenuate such quagmire and one organization that is making a tremendous amount of effort, to give back and humanity is the Community Healthcare Initiative headed by Naomi Tulay-Solanke, which is based in Marshall City, Margibi County.
The Community Healthcare Initiative (CHI) is a registered non-governmental organization founded in 2014. Its prime objective is to strengthen and promote healthcare, social services, women’s rights; child rights, especially girls including persons living with disability and sexual minorities in Liberia.
During the Ebola epidemic in 2014, Community Healthcare Initiative contributed immensely by creating awareness among the citizens of Liberia of the dangers posed by the lethal disease and how to prevent coming in contact with the virus.
And since the embryonic days of the CHI till now, it has continued to educate women and Girls about Sexual Reproductive Health Rights including the right to life, liberty, and security of the person; the right to health care, and information; and the right to non-discrimination in the allocation of resources to health services and availability.
One of the pivotal concerns that need to be handled, is the issue that has to do with increment in relationships breakout due to lack of pleasure or satisfaction.
According to Naomi Tulay-Solanke, the rate of both marital and non-marital relationship breakout is dismaying.
She said many couples can no longer sustain a relationship because of dissatisfaction on the part of one of the partners.
She noted that lack of sexual pleasure and satisfaction has led to many relationship breakups.
CHI Chief Executive Solanke revealed that most of the couples who have sought consultancy at their office have complained that their partner or spouse no longer gives them pleasure and their love life has become stagnant.
Solanke recounted that most men only care about their satisfaction and failed to realize that women, also need pleasure, and if men were to have conversations with their girlfriends or spouses, to determine, what makes them happy or if they enjoyed the intimacy, many marriages or relationships would be better off.
Solanke also revealed that the use of sex toys by both partners during intercourse has contributed immensely to the satisfaction of both sexes especially the female gender, which has increased the love in relationships.
“So you see there are some people who just don’t want to give women head or have oral sex so these are things that help you”; she narrates holding a sex toy. “If your woman loves a stimulation of her clitoris, and you don’t have that time, you have this; they called it the ‘clitoris suction’ stimulator and also help women to get to their orgasm so early”
Speaking from her Headquarters in Mamba Kaba, Marshall City, Margibi County, the Community Healthcare Initiative Administrator Naomi Tulay-Solanke let out that since they introduced a pleasure program at their facility, in which counseling of spouses is done, many relationships and marriages have been saved and love amongst many partners have been rekindled.
“As Lovers or Couples, you always have to keep doing things that will keep the relationship together. You need to find out what your partner likes. You need to complement each other, go places together and be the best of friends”
Moreover, it is incontrovertible that in Liberia most women do not express their thoughts to their male counterparts when it comes to issues of lack of pleasure during intimacy.
“Comprehensive Sexuality Education is educating women about their genetic makeup. Informing women about puberty, their body parts, and so forth”.
With the Community Healthcare Initiative CHI, doing its utmost best in the dissemination of information on how to secure families or keep marriages and relationships, one can only be hopeful that more people will envisage the need to seek expert counseling services at CHI in Marshall City, Margibi County.
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